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The Do’s & Don’ts of Delivering the Perfect Maid of Honor Speech

by The Bach

How to land the perfect maid of honor speech

If you’re feeling nervous about giving your Maid of Honor speech at an upcoming wedding, you are definitely not alone! The pressure is on to tell your best friend how you feel in front of a room full of her closest friends and family. Take a deep breath though, and follow these simple do’s and don’ts to make sure you pull of the best speech possible. Good luck!

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DO Begin Working on it in Advance

Getting all of your thoughts together takes time! A few months before the wedding, start taking notes on your phone or in a designated notepad. Anytime you think of something perfect to include in your speech, jot it down. Make sure you leave yourself several weeks to turn your thoughts into a cohesive speech, and give yourself at least a few days to practice reading it aloud.

DON’T Focus Too Much on Yourself

A common mistake that many maid of honors make is dedicating the majority of the speech to how she knows the bride and how much the bride has affected her own life. While this is important information that you should include, don’t get too carried away talking about yourself. Make sure that the bulk of your toast focuses on the happy couple. Focal points should be on their personalities, their love stories, their upcoming dog friendly honeymoon plans, or even the exciting way they met.

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DO Incorporate Personal Stories

While the whole speech should not just be about you, do feel free to tell personal stories that explain your relationship with the bride and the groom. Try to choose ones that highlight their best traits and describe how you think that will lead to a fulfilling marriage — like their love of romantic wine nights or the time they adopted the world’s cutest puppy.

DON’T Ramble on All Night

Some of the best speeches are short and sweet! Before you start writing, check with the bride to see if there is a time limit that you should stick to. If not, 2-4 minutes is a good goal to set. Practice reading the speech out loud and have someone time you so that the length doesn’t surprise you on the big day.

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DO Be Yourself When Making Your Toast

If you are the comedian of your group, don’t be afraid to let your sense of humor come through in your speech. In fact, the bride and groom probably expect it. If you are more of an emotional person, don’t hold back from giving a truly heartfelt toast. The more authentic you are, the more your bestie bride will love hearing what you have to say.

DON’T Bring up Exes. Ever.

This one is a no-brainer — a great maid of honor speech will never mention a torrid past. No good can from mentioning an ex, so just don’t go there!

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DO Close With Something Sweet

Whether your speech was full of hilarious jokes or had everyone in tears, make sure you end it in a loving manner. A simple “cheers to the happy couple,” or “wishing you both a lifetime of happiness” always works well if you are at a loss for words.

DON’T Worry

Maybe you’re extremely comfortable speaking in front of a group of people, but most of us haven’t had too much public speaking experience. Don’t worry, even if you stumble with your words or speak a little too fast, the newlyweds will appreciate your sweet words and happy wishes! A maid of honor speech is a work of love, after all.

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